So, your question is how to practice self love…
Do you know what self love is? It’s more than changing your hair or getting a new wardrobe.
Self love is gaining an appreciation for yourself through the physical, emotional and spiritual support, you provide yourself with. It’s not a fixed state, but can grow over time through actions that lead to maturity.
Establishing self love can be a long journey, but it’s a vital step to improving your mental health and overall happiness.
So, here are few tips that may help you practice self love:
Are you incredibly tough on yourself?
Sometimes, when you’re struggling for affection, you end up over looking the fact that you are only a human. Although you may tell yourselves that you’re just holding yourself accountable.
Too much self deprecation can be harmful for your mental health.
Instead, learning to forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made and reading them as an opportunity to start grow, is a step towards practicing self love.
Are the goals you set for yourself really what you want? Or are they pushed on to you by society?
Being introspective or mindful can give you sense of clarity of who you are, how you think and what you want. It arms you with self knowledge, that you can use to move forward.
Some ways to practice mindfulness include keeping your journal and taking some time to self-reflect.
ACT ON WHAT YOU NEED
Do you know what gives you energy? What makes you happy?
Perhaps you’re feeling overwhelmed with needing to spend so much time with your friends or colleagues, but feel bad for wanting to step away.
Choosing to go any ways may end up draining your energy and leaving you exhausted. That’s why it’s so important to identify the things that make you feel better vs the things that make you feel worse.
Knowing what you need and acting on those needs is a form of self love and it can go a long way for your mental and emotional well-being.
Are there certain behaviors that you are not willing to put up with?
The purpose of setting boundaries is not to kick people out of your life but rather to help you identify what is acceptable or welcomed in your life and what’s not.
Healthy boundaries help you filter up things that drain your energy, harm you emotionally, physically or spiritually.
Figure out what you need to feel loved or accepted and then work from there.
What type of people you surround yourself with?
Another way to practice self love is to protect yourself. This may mean bringing people into your life who will be supportive and who contribute to you emotional, mental and spiritual health, instead of tearing it apart.
Getting rid of fake friends or anyone who takes pleasure in your misery is important for your self-esteem and self-confidence.
What makes your eyes light up? What inspires you?
It’s important to live life with intention and make choices that help you move towards your goals. For example, if you intend to live a peaceful and healthy life, you need to make choices that support that goal.
SHOW UP FOR YOURSELF
Do you scold yourself when you don’t finish everything you set out to do?
There will be times where you don’t accomplish everything you planned to do. But acknowledging the effort you’ve given and the amount you have done is important.
It’s easy to focus on only your faults, but showing yourself kindness and compassion. Even in on how you talk to yourself can help override some of the negative mental patterns you may have and help you feel loved and supported.
Do you tend to ignore your needs sometimes?
Taking care of your basic needs is an act of love. Even taking a few minutes out of your day and to check in and provide yourself with what you need can help you feel a lot better, whether it’s soaking in a hot bath, eating something healthy or even working out.
Practicing self-care can go a long way for your mental health and your happiness.
Have you practiced any of these types of self love? Let me know in the comments below!